Posts by compound complex

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Sorry, I need to vent for a moment...

by Abandoned in

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normally, i don't mind where i'm at in my life.

i'm forty, no kids, low-paying job, live in a trailer court, etc (and trust me there's more to the etc, then i've already mentioned), but today i had a hard time.. one of my best friends from high school was a big dope head (no offense to the dope heads out there).

he showed up nearly every day to our first period art class smelling of weed and was generally so whacked out of his mind that he got horrible grades.. he finally graduated - barely - and made it to college.

compound complex

Hey Abandoned,

Looks like we're posting back and forth. Thanx for posting on Jealousy. I love people too and love to write since this is my new life, but I'm OK with the fact that not every one will become my friend. I guess part of the thought behind the new thread is that I used to get jealous of someone who was paid more attention than me. But you see, at this point in my life---20 years older than you---I'm no longer dealing with what you're going through. I survived your current situation and pain. And so will you! I'm so happy that everyone is supporting you. I take what I learn here and tactfully, or openly, share it with those who do not know the wisdom of the information highway. My pain now is illness, getting old and dying, not that I'm morbid or anything. Just that I gave up my career and such---on stage for 10 years. Composer, like you. But it's okay. My life now is here with you and all my other new friends. And I'm not worried about reciprocation. I throw in my two cents and like you, I've got spunk. Don't you just love Mouthy?

Will you be my friend?,

CoCo

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Were You Ever a Victim of Jealousy?

by compound complex in

dear friends,.

despite our noble intentions and the hope that we'll behave ourselves, we are downright human.

i just saw beaches again last night (bought the used tape for four bucks) and was reminded how that evil, green-eyed monster can destroy the best of relationships.

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Dear Fellow-Sufferers of old Green Eyes,

Well, Abandoned, you are certainly free to b---h here. We listen, as you well know!

Poor Lonely, what a sad way to lose friends. I hope you've come to terms with the loss. Also, I've seen it go both ways, like in BEACHES, C.C. is jealous of Hillary; Hillary, come to find out, is jealous of C.C. You feel so helpless because your friend really must have loved you but is simply overcome by, perhaps, feelings of insecurity or inferiority that are heightened in your presence. Love/hate/love--it can be an emotional nightmare for both parties.

IP-SEC, thanx for joining us!

SIXofNINE, If that incredible melody and lyrics can't do it, then maybe there is no hope. You mean that your singing it lays to rest the heart of the jealous one? And tips on pity--how to feel it or show it toward those who cannot control their jealousy? More, please. I no longer feel anger toward someone whose insecurity, manifesting itself in scenes of jealousy, wrought havoc on the lives of so many. But she knew she had the problem and sought forgiveness. Still, the grief....

CoCo

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Devil's Advocate / RCC

by compound complex in

devil's advocate.

in the roman catholic church, where the term had its origin, "the devil's advocate" is one appointed to present the arguments against a proposed canonization as a saint.

he is, indeed, therefore, as fowler insists, "the blackener of the good" rather than "the whitewasher of the wicked.

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Thank you, Guys,

Narkissos, l'expression francaise "l'avocat du diable"; excellent points.

Clam, yeah, advocatus diaboli, hired by the Church! Is way too cool!

Je vous en remercie! Thank you!

CoCo

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As a DUB, what did you do and hid so as not to stumble anyone?

by megsmomma in

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i was thinking of all the "concious matters" that you could do if you wanted, but would not tell anyone so you wouldn't get in "trouble".

one thing that came to my mind is when after having my baby, i wanted to join weight watchers...there were two meeting places to choose from...one close to me and in a church....and one quite far not in a church.

well, i went to the one in the church, always worried someone would see me(but i didn't really think it was a big deal) so, what did you all hide?

compound complex

Dear Don't Stumble Me,

First thing that came to mind was an elderly sister's words to me:

"Admit you make mistakes so others know you're human, but don't take the lid off the garbage can."

I'm pretty open about my screw-ups, but you have to be careful what you say to certain people. Even in all innocence they can hurt you. Discreet also means to refrain from revealing, to the harm of others, delicate matters.

No new revelations,

CoCo

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Were You Ever a Victim of Jealousy?

by compound complex in

dear friends,.

despite our noble intentions and the hope that we'll behave ourselves, we are downright human.

i just saw beaches again last night (bought the used tape for four bucks) and was reminded how that evil, green-eyed monster can destroy the best of relationships.

compound complex

Dear Lonelysheep,

Thanx for your question-------ANYWHERE, in and among members of the human race. There's surely enough inside the Tower, though (probably worse there, from our collective standpoint!).

CoCo

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Were You Ever a Victim of Jealousy?

by compound complex in

dear friends,.

despite our noble intentions and the hope that we'll behave ourselves, we are downright human.

i just saw beaches again last night (bought the used tape for four bucks) and was reminded how that evil, green-eyed monster can destroy the best of relationships.

compound complex

Dear Friends,

Despite our noble intentions and the hope that we'll behave ourselves, we are downright human. I just saw BEACHES again last night (bought the used tape for four bucks) and was reminded how that evil, green-eyed monster can destroy the best of relationships. I observed it at Bethel, in the congregation, in family life and at work. Did you ever have to deal with it? What was the solution? Fight or flight? biting your tongue till it bled? becoming a philosopher? prayer and supplication? I'm sure we're all still dealing with some bad memories. Please share your feelings if it isn't too painful. Thanx much.

A rottenness to the bones,

CoCo

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Are You a Latitudinarian? (Liberal)

by compound complex in

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latitudinarian, a. liberal in one's views; permitting free thought, especially in religious matters; very tolerant of the differing opinions of others; as, "latitudinarian" opinions or doctrines.

[emphasis added].

dear friends of liberal persuasion,.

compound complex

Thank you, Cellist,

Yes, accepting people for what they are surely is best! I only want to know because I'm interested in my new friends and how they think. No survey, honest! New ideas, fresh perspectives to help me grow.

No longer narrow of view,

CoCo

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2006 THANKSGIVING MENU AT BETHEL

by Scorpion in

2006 thanksgiving menu at bethel .

new world diner .

welcome to new world food and "spirits".

compound complex

Holy Cow, Scorpion!

You are sure one Land o' Goshen Gourmet! Before the few really special meals we had at Bethel, like in connection with Gilead graduation, Br. Knorr took real joy in announcing the menu. The food there truly was excellent. A favorite dessert was rum and raisin ice cream.

Bon appetit!

CoCo

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The memory of a friend

by looking_glass in

well it is has been about a month now since one of my closest friends died of a heart attack.

we were raised together as brother and sister because our mothers were best friends.

i will not give away much detail because his family are still strong jws and his wife is an active jw as well.

compound complex

Dear Looking -Glass,

Such mixed emotions: anger, grief, incredulity. Not only over your terrible loss, but the ignorance of others. They usually do mean well, but still, the basis for their comments gets to you. It will take you time, but I finally got through a long period of grieving. And I have a low threshhold for emotional pain. Peace and love to you.

CoCo

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my cat died today... i need consoling...

by theinfamousone in

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this is the guy that sat on my razor blades the one time i was thinking of cutting myself... this is the guy that everytime my dad beat me, would come to my room and lay with me... this is the guy that one time jumped into the bathtub with me while i was crying after a brutal beating, the cat hated water... this is a cat that was more family to me than my own father and mother combined... this was my best friend... .

today i had to do the hardest thing i ever did, i had to choose to have him put down... and as he fought the vet, and tried to bite her, i put my hand on his head, and he stopped struggling... and as they put the last needle into his leg, he purred until he died... the vet says she has never seen that before... this was my best friend and i had to kill him... fuck, im a baby, but i miss him soooo much.

the infamous one.

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Dear Infamous,

Sorry about your grief. I had as many as 15 cats and 3 dogs at one time. Lost all 3 dogs in the same year. Our favorite cat, Ted, we couldn't save because the vet needed $800! Was really sad. Condolences to you.

CoCo